A study found that more than 12 million people in Britain like being tied up for intercourse, and the UK had the largest sales for BDSM equipment.

Bondage doesn’t just mean sex toys and lingerie, or trying new sex positions. Bondage has been around for centuries and is still one of the most preferred fetishes for a reason.

People like Bondage for a variety of reasons. Spicing things up is always fun, especially in your sex life, and there’s a reason why bondage is one of the most trending categories of all time. If you’re thinking of trying it out, then a bondage starter kit is a great way to test the waters. You may also want to consider other sexy ways to spice up your bondage experiences with maybe an inflatable gag or glass sex toys like glass dildos.

How to get started with Bondage if you’re a beginner

• Begin by subtly suggesting things

Many people are scared to try bondage for the first time because they don’t know how to bring up the topic to their spouse in a normal conversation. A Bondage equipment salesman is no stranger to this: “don’t mind not knowing what to buy; many of our clients don’t know how to say it to their spouse,” try watching some erotic fiction or perhaps one of those DVDs at home.

The first step is to get them thinking about it: before you look at anything else. Plant the notion in your spouse’s head that it may be something you’d want to do. It might just shift their perspective by getting them accustomed to the idea.

• Don’t be scared by rumors about bondage

The word “Bondage” is well known to be brutal, but it can also be a lovely method to enhance a relationship. The dimension of bondage is actually quite like the dimension of curries, when people say curry, people imagine hot and spicy.

When they say the word “bondage,” people imagine whips and chains and frightening stuff. And yes, that is one fraction of it, but there’s so much more to explore as well, there’s soft-core stuff too. Bondage for beginners is like the holy grail of fetish play.

• Communication is also crucial in order to develop trust and confidence

For novices, “bondage” refers to a slow start and attempting it with a person who gives you consent to do so. Bedroom games should be a good beginning to this, they need and imply giving up control to the dominant partner. Before you begin, make sure you agree on a safe word that will assure the parties involved that they can trust you and it’s going to be ok.

Beginners tend to think, “maybe it’s actually really scary if a safeword is required, maybe this is really scary stuff”, and often pep themselves down, but it really isn’t. We have a safe word for every fetish which is usually denial or expressing they don’t have your consent to go any further. However, in bondage play, denial is not enough because it’s often a part of play, which is why we need safe words.

• Make sure you pick the right position

Top or bottom?
For newbies or people trying it for the first time, this is not as relevant. ‘Many individuals believe that they must choose one or the other,’ or “I’m the guy, therefore I must go on top.” You may discover that you like one more than the other during experimentation, or even dramatically dislike being a sub.

“Submissive and dominating aren’t the only categories. There’s another category, which I’ll call ‘switch’, some people are a switch for their whole life. That’s someone that likes to switch roles depending on their mood that time and their partner – they may like to be submissive on a Saturday, but on Sunday they’re dominating.

• Keep things simple

For beginners when we are talking about bondage essentials. ‘Don’t start pulling in a lot of equipment – that might be frightening, or make things more complex than they need to be.’ This is why blindfolds are so useful. We’ve all got one laying around somewhere.

When you block one of your senses it heightens all the other senses. This is why when you block someone’s vision it raises sensation to all the other senses, so they will be really sensitive to sensations such as hearing or touch. If you were to blindfold them and use sex toys or touch them. you would get a really heightened response compared to the times without blindfolds.

• Experiment with different types of knots and places for Bondage
Restraint is really simple, all you have to do is imagine where you want to hold your partner’s arms. For example, you could try pinning them against the bed if they’re into that.

What if your partner is experienced but you’re not?

‘If you’re looking to join in on some kinky activity, talk about it ahead of time. It’s important to explain what you’ve tried and what you haven’t, as well as why you like it.

What comes after bondage

If you want to step up your game, we suggest adding spanking to the mix.

Spanks are and will be the best way to assert dominance, as long as it’s acceptable to your partner, you can vary the intensity or place where you spank,”

For partners who’ve stated they want to give it a shot, it’s critical that you take it to build up to a hard spank gradually. Start with a mild tap and work your way up in terms of how hard you hit until you discover the perfect feeling for your sub.

When you’re new, the most important thing to remember is that it is supposed to be fun! Bondage is a kink that, like all the other kinks, should be enjoyed by both parties involved. It should bring a new level of excitement to the bedroom and be a positive sexual experience for you both.