Until the knot is untied!
Bondage stands for the “B” in BDSM and refers to all degrees of restraint play that arouse and intensify sex. This type of play has enjoyed extraordinary popularity in fantasies and escort dates worldwide, especially since the Fifty Shades of Grey film adaptation. Even if many don’t yet openly admit their bondage fantasies, roughly half of all men and almost as many women find restraint and related games sexually stimulating and erotic. And aren’t we all a little naughty? But perhaps you should try a BDSM escort first, to learn a few tricks and limits.
The myth of the torture chamber
Soft bondage is perfectly suitable for everyone’s pleasure today. Of course, bondage is an extremely broad field with a very old tradition and various theories about its origins and history. The spectrum ranges from delicate satin ribbons for the headboard to St. Andrew’s crosses, strappados, and spreader bars – all “toys” from the BDSM scene, into which the Western world has also integrated the art of bondage. Whether it’s soft bondage, role-playing, kinky sex, rough sex or doctor games, all variations have in common that the participants voluntarily enter into a game of submission and power. Trust is essential, and no game is played without a safeword.
Dive in and let go
The appeal: the feeling of being helplessly at the mercy of one’s partner, exposed to whatever may come. Or its counterpart: the power of knowing that someone is absolutely devoted can be incredibly arousing, creating previously unimagined levels of excitement. Attempts to break free can intensify other, simultaneous sexual stimulations and allow them to be perceived in a completely different way. But sexual play isn’t a requirement, and often the journey is the destination: the aesthetic display of the body, the pleasure of restraint, and the surrender to enduring often uncomfortable positions and giving each other undivided time and attention. The Dom, as the dominant partner, enjoys the Sub’s attempts to break free as an erotic interplay of pleasure, restraint, and freedom.
The art of aesthetically staged devotion
In fact, erotic bondage was originally perfected in Japan as a highly expressive art form and was hardly associated with eroticism. “Shibari” (also known as Kinbaku) is considered an aesthetic art form of bondage there, using almost exclusively hemp or jute ropes, and originates from military restraint techniques. Through special knots and binding techniques, the “rigger” creates a complete work of art, where the artist’s message is conveyed through the “bunny’s” posture and the patterns of the rope weaving. It was only in Western culture that bondage techniques were integrated into sadomasochism and thus into erotic love life. Shades of Grey soft BDSM, therefore, has little to do with the origins of bondage art. But it’s still arousing!
DIY or store bondage?
While Japanese bondage follows strict rules and harmonious rope handling, Western bondage is far less bound by formal constraints: anything goes. The ropes are more colourful, the materials more diverse. And if Christian Grey, the Dom in Shades of Grey, buys his tools at a hardware store, it can’t be all bad, right? Are Hagebau and Obi the modern-day bondage discount stores? Admittedly, the situational comedy of asking the “experts” has its charm, and they certainly have plenty of ropes, chains, carabiners, and hooks there. But please, no! Do yourselves and your partners a favour and don’t skimp on the rope! Skin is the largest and one of the most sensitive sensory organs, and harsh materials that can cause injury or skin reactions due to chemicals in hardware store ropes should be strictly avoided, especially because of contact with sensitive areas!
Look before you leap
Soft bondage restraints can be made from pretty, soft materials like silk scarves or even ties. For more complex bondage games, especially suspension figures, however, a few things need to be considered:
- Stretchy materials like cotton are often difficult to undo and can tighten unpredictably!
- Insufficient load-bearing capacity is a particular risk. High-quality jute or hemp ropes with a minimum breaking strength of 250 kilograms per meter are ideal. You can get your own personal bondage rope set in a wide variety of colours and degrees of stiffness, from rough to supple, from a professional bondage rope manufacturer. Additionally, many adult shops offer all kinds of handcuffs, self-bondage items, gags, straitjackets, spreader bars, and bondage clothing for every need.
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